Dolly Koshi

The Merriam Webster dictionary states that the first known use of the word dyke was sometime in 1931. It also defines dyke as “lesbian, usually offensive.” “There are a lot of negative connotations associated with the word. Even lesbian women prefer to call themselves gay because it is a more acceptable, ‘happy’ word. Personally, I’m all for reclaiming terms that are used to put down the community,” says Koshy. Infused with elements of misogyny, dyke became a common slang for women loving women in the 1950s. The 1970s saw a whole new generation of lesbian feminists, who were unafraid to label themselves thus.

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According to Shruti Chakravarty, a mental health practitioner and chief advisor at Mariwala Health Initiative in Mumbai, the historical assertion of dyke meant freedom in a male-dominated world. “There was a need to overthrow patriarchy and enable women to be free. Dykes essentially said, ‘we don’t need men’. It was an unpopular and threatening assertion to make and that essentially was the subversive potential of dyke.” Chakravarty identifies as butch lesbian cis, which means she identifies with the gender she was assigned at birth. “For me, butch is a masculine woman. I am not a man. My gender expression is masculine, which is what people find difficult to wrap their heads around because masculinity is equated with being a man. You can be a woman and be masculine.” There are odd instances  in the community, when Chakravarty says she has faced situations where women have refused to go out with her because they think of her as a man.

Shruti Chakravarty

Sakshi Juneja, co-founder of Gaysi, says the term is used extensively even today, but mostly within the community. “It’s not really taken well when non-community persons mention dyke in place of lesbian or queer, depending on the label most comfortable to an individual.” 

Another member from the community, who is based out of Bengaluru and did not wish to be identified for the story, says she gets why Facebook has chosen to ban the word. “In the West mostly, it’s still used as a slur. In the local community, we’d rather use queer because it is far more inclusive of multiple gender identities.” 
Chakravarty says the typical assumption is that a dyke is a butch woman, but that may not necessarily be the case. “Dyke is used and owned by a lot of women, across gender identities, who may not consider themselves masculine. You can be femme and androgynous and still see yourself as dyke.” 

Having said that, she believes that butch women give young people in the queer community the assurance that it’s possible to lead life as a masculine woman, “Because the only message a woman gets while growing up as as tom boy, is be more like a girl, dress more like a girl. In fact, my association with the word lesbian was fraught. It evoked shame and dislike. I’m very proud of it now but back then, I found it hard to use. Dyke somehow felt celebratory. For me, it means a woman who recognises who she is and is able to live by those values.”

1931
The year the term dyke was used for the first time, according to the Merriam Webster dictionary