Bano joined AIR in August 1947

It was only three-and-a-half years ago that Raza went back to those tapes. And, even though her grandmother was an open-book, Raza admits her story was quite a revelation to her. "She was always ahead of her times," says Raza, in a telephonic interview. "We used to have these very frank discussions about divorce, and choice. I was equally feisty, so, I'd challenge what she said, and that would often lead to small differences." In hindsight, she feels the kind of discussions they had, rarely defined most grandmother-granddaughter relationships. The book, which began as a personal project, helped her understand how her Bibi became a force to reckon with.

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The seeds of Bano's feminist values were sown in her childhood. While her family hailed from Lucknow, she spent her early years in the princely state of Bhopal, where her father, Mir Majid Husain, taught English to the then ruler, Nawab Sultan Jahan Begum's sons. The state had been ruled by women for nearly four generations. This not only had an impact on Bano, but also her mother, Asharfunisa, whom Sultan Jahan Begum had particularly taken a shine to, offering her a Bhopali joda from her own wardrobe, so that she didn't have to wear those "restrictive clothes". Later admitted to Isabella Thoburn College in Lucknow, she learnt to breathe more freely. When the family received a marriage proposal from the Raza family, asking Bano's hand for Abbas Raza who was a munsif (judge) in the Judicial Service, she had protested the match, shooting off a letter to her father expressing the desire to study. "I wrote that I was also keen to learn how to play the piano and mentioned briefly that I was absolutely not ready for marriage. I did not even receive a one-line reply in response to my four-page rant," Bano writes in the book. The marriage was inevitable, but by her own admission, there was no love. Having a capricious husband, didn't help. Meanwhile, she kept herself busy, raising her sons Asad and Saeed, and also became a regular on a show of a newly-launched radio station in Lucknow, after being invited to participate in a discussion. During one of the low phases of their relationship, she had sent an application to BBC London for a job, with a recording of her voice on a disc, only to have Abbas throw cold water on her plans. The struggle ended, when Abbas walked out of their home, Kashana-e-Raza. Instead of staying back with her in-laws, she enlisted the help of Vijayalaxmi Pandit (Jawaharlal Nehru's sister), who was known to the family, to get a job at AIR Delhi. "The fact that she could leave Lucknow, uproot herself from that secure and comfortable life in Kashana-e-Raza, and stay in a women's hostel in Delhi [YMCA], a place she knew nothing about, was most exceptional," feels Raza, adding "I don't think I would dare to do that even today." Bano arrived in Delhi with her younger son Saeed, in early August 1947, when the country was at the cusp of making history. But the celebrations were soon marred by the Partition, which momentarily altered her life, as well. Her close friendship with Nuruddin Ahmed, a barrister and renowned criminal lawyer of the Supreme Court, who later went on to become the Mayor of Delhi, was perhaps her life's most complex chapter. Ahmed was a married man; Bano had tried hard to end the friendship, only to realise she had been in love all along. "I had compromised with all the complexities of our relationship. But each day brought with it unrelenting hardships. I was reminded of the story The Legend of Farhad and Shirin in which the fictitious character Farhad has to overcome the arduous task of carving out a canal through impenetrable mountains and then divert a tiny rivulet of water through it, just to win the love of Shirin," Bano writes.

Kashana-e-Raza, Lucknow, designed by American architect Walter Burley Griffin, where Bano lived with her husband and children until she lived to Delhi

But, what makes this memoir an important one, is also her professional strides at AIR. When AIR launched its Urdu service, she began taking on more programming work, leading a Women and Children's show, analysing news, broadcasting short bulletins, and also producing a five-minute show called Dekhi-Suni. In her memoir, she writes about this very matter-of-factly.

Shahana Raza with her grandmother Saeeda Bano, 1996, New Delhi

"My grandmother never tom-tommed about anything she did. Whatever she did, was not meant to be flashed in anyone's face. I never knew she had had breakfast with [Jawaharlal] Nehru, until I heard the tapes," says Raza. Her most memorable story related to her Bibi is one that never made it to the book, because Bano chose not to write about it in the memoir. "I don't know when this incident took place, but she used to visit this club, where the Englishwomen would be swimming in the pool. One day, she jumped into the shallow side in her kurta-pyjama. She knew that until she didn't get into the pool, she'd not know how to swim. She wanted to have that experience. That was her. She was gutsy."

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