In nature, life feeds on life, the eater becomes the eaten. Herbivorous animals eat plants, carnivorous animals eat animals. One living creature feeds on the other. The self can survive only by consuming the other. This becomes a metaphysical idea in the relationship of Parvati and Shiva. In a relationship, who is the feeder, who is fed, who is the food? In a yagna, the one who feeds first is the yajaman; the one who reciprocates is the devata. Who is the yajaman in marriage, who is the devata?

The patriarch says the man is the yajaman, who puts the devata in debt and obliges him to reciprocate. The householder says that both man and woman take turns, as yajaman, feeding each other, ensuring the other is free of debt. As the Yajur Veda says: Dehi ma, dadami te (give me as I give you). Thus, the household is presented not as a bondage, but as the tool of liberation. Gauri is well aware that Shankara, the householder, is Shiva, the hermit. And Shankara is aware that Gauri, the homemaker, is Kali, the wild forest. The Goddess is Vana Chandi of the forest, Rana Chandi of the battlefield, and Managala Chandi of the home.

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Through marriage, we are being told that the self exists for the other, the other exists for the self. I feed you and you feed me. That is why Parvati draws Shiva from the isolation of Kailash to the crowded streets of Kashi. Here she cooks the food, she serves him the food. He is Mahadev, he is not hungry, but he collects the food in the form of bhiksha and distributes it to everyone around him. Engagement happens. The goddess here becomes the teacher, the goddess here is also the nourisher, the goddess here is also the protector. The result of such mutuality and reciprocity is Ganesha.

The author writes and lectures on the relevance of mythology in modern times. Reach him at devdutt.pattanaik@mid-day.com